Pregnancy Notes: The Good, The Bad, and The Funny

Hey everyone!  I thought I’d share some pregnancy notes now that I’m into my second trimester.  I still love the PF community and have a lot to share, especially the financial implications of having a little one, but all these experiences have been quite new and fun for me, so I’ll table the PF aspect for a future post.  Thanks, as always, for stopping by!

The Good

1) Maternity pants, where have you been all my life?!?  They look like dress pants, but have the forgiveness of sweat pants, and that’s a win-win in my book!  I wouldn’t put it past me to rock these bad boys forever. ;)  It’s also been a muumuu summer (or as the kids these days call them, “maxi dresses”… but so much more fun to call them muumuu).

2) My running has waned because it hasn’t been that much fun to get as many miles in to be honest, but I’ve rediscovered my love for spin class!  I’ve also managed to meet a couple of new mothers there, and that’s been really nice to share experiences with.

3) In the first trimester, all I wanted were naughty, deep fried foods, but I’m glad to report that this trimester, I’m craving healthier foods, especially steamed vegetables and watermelon (holy wow, so much watermelon, I conservatively estimate eating approximately 438 pounds of it).  My appetite is a bit more steady-state, as well, though I do cave in to the occasional cravings of pupusas, saag paneer, tater tots, or pan fried noodles.

4) Obviously I love B very much, but these past few months my love for him has grown on so many levels.  Not only is he patient with my mood swings, but he also talks to Flash (we’ve now nicknamed him this after a joke that we should name him “Flash Gordon” (don’t worry, we won’t!)) and it’s the most endearing thing to watch.  I think he talks to him more than he does to me now, not sure. 

The Bad

1) Hair grows at an increasingly substantial rate – it’s alarming really, and all over my body. Plus I’m starting to get bacne which I’ve never had, and there’s more… fluids… just lots and lots of fluids.  The doctor said it’s normal and probably more frequent during hot summer months, so good thing we’re lined up to visit the desert in September!! (/end sarcasm)

2) I’m still in that weird awkward stage where it looks like I’m just gaining weight (which, well I am…).  I’m hoping the little ‘pop’ will come out so it doesn’t look like a spare tire in my gym clothes soon, though with the beginning aches of back pain, I understand I should also just relish this period while the discomfort has been pretty mild.

3) I still manage to get up fairly early (before 4:30 most days), though I’ve definitely indulged in 8-9 hours of sleep these past few weeks.  I don’t think I’ve slept this much since puberty (where I had my whopping growth spurt up to 5’3 ;)), and while it’s been nice, it sure does cut away at my day’s productivity.

 

The Funny

1) I was running on the treadmill and the guy who uses the treadmill next to me one day said, “Hey, I finally ran more miles than you!”  I snapped with, “You better, I doubt you’re pregnant!!!” and stormed off.  I did think afterward, “Hrm, maybe I should have handled that better…”, but in my defense, I’ve never talked to him before.  He did approach me a couple of weeks later and asked how I was doing, and ever since we’ve been friends.

2) My favorite gym couple asked how I was able to know Flash was a boy so soon, and I told them I was able to take blood tests since I’m AMA (advanced maternal age).  The husband, afterward, asked his wife what it meant, and when she told him, he argued with her that it was impossible, that there’s no way I’m even over 30 let alone 35, and AMA must mean “Asian Mom Association” or something. lol

3) Admittedly, this is still largely such a foreign concept to me.  There is an organism with a beating heart (and an “outie”, so to speak!) growing inside me, and that is a very trippy thing to wrap my head around.  I also picked up a watermelon one day and B said “hey, that’s coming out of you soon!” and it took all of that day’s willpower to not hurl it at him.

4) One day, I put my hand on my belly and thought “oh my gosh, I think I feel the heart beat!”  But then, I checked the pulse on my neck, and thought “oh, wait, it’s just my own…”

5) Last Sunday, I felt some slight thuds in my belly while we were on the couch, and I said to B “I think I feel him… I THINK I FEEL THE FLUTTERS!!!”  Of course, once I said the latter part, it went away, and I haven’t felt them since.  Oh dear, I’m an overbearing mother already! :/

Anyway,  I’d love to hear some updates on your corner of the world!  I’ve noticed some of my favorite bloggers also haven’t posted as frequently, but I’m guessing it’s because the summer days are just too precious to not enjoy.  I just hope everyone is well, staying healthy, and getting their financial responsibility on! :)

The Lemonade Stand: A Review

bookreview-giveawayHello everyone! First of all, thank you so much for all the warm and well wishes on our upcoming arrival! It has been overwhelming reading about his weekly progress, scouting out different infant care places, and figuring out the do’s and don’ts while being pregnant, but it’s also been very exciting!

One of the important topics that comes up is preparing ourselves financially for our little one. We not only want to be wise with our finances to make room for him, but we also want him to learn to be financially savvy (well, after learning how to hold his head up and all that stuff. ;)). So when my dear friend, Shannon Ryan from The Heavy Purse, came out with her new children’s book, “The Lemonade Stand”, I was all ears and couldn’t wait to get my grubby paws on it!

“The Lemonade Stand” is about two boys with the case of the wants, but with no real strategy on how to obtain these wants. I’m not going to lie, at first, I thought, “Gasp, where are Lauren and Taylor?!” But alas, our favorite heroines arrive later in the story, and they teach their friends the important value of earning your own money, as well as the concept of “Save, Spend, and Share”! The book is full of beautiful illustrations, and it teaches kids some fundamental and key concepts as they go on their path towards financial literacy. I personally loved how they also learned what a profit means, since the book also took into account having to repay business costs.

I highly recommend it, and know it will be on frequent rotation for our little one. Plus, if you would like your own copy, be sure to use coupon code (TOUR3114) for $3 off the book!  I have learned so much from Shannon in just this past year, and I love her mission in life to teach kids and adults alike the value of financial literacy.  To make Shannon’s book launch even more exciting, please see the details below for an iPad Mini giveaway!

The Lemonade Stand – iPad Mini Giveaway

July 14-31, 2014

Sponsored by The Heavy Purse

Join Lauren and Taylor in their continuing money adventures in The Lemonade Stand by Shannon Ryan, CFP®. Shannon is a Mom on a mission to help busy parents teach their children simple, value-based principles that guide their money decisions and support their long-term financial well-being.

“Everyone handles money. Unfortunately, not everyone does it with confidence. Money has long been a taboo topic in many homes, which makes it even harder for parents to know where to start or what to teach. So I created a series of children books to help parents ease into these important conversations. Financial literacy is one of the most loving gifts you can give your children, and I encourage everyone to make money conversations a priority in your home.”

We’re Giving Away an iPad Mini to One Lucky Reader!

Help us celebrate the release of The Lemonade Stand and join Shannon in her mission to increase financial literacy in both children and adults.

The giveaway runs from July 14-31, 2014 and is open worldwide.*

Ready to read The Lemonade Stand in style? Then Sign-Up for the iPad Mini Giveaway today!
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Almost July Updates – The “Padawan” Edition!

Hey everyone!  I can’t believe it’s almost July in just a few short days!  It’s been quite busy in my tiny corner of the earth, as work is always busy (in a very good way!), and I’m grateful to report that B and I are expecting a little one! :)  This first trimester has felt like FOR-ever as I wanted to keep it a secret, but I’ve slowly told family, friends, and coworkers, as well as have now publicly told it on FB.  Here’s some experiences and thoughts I’ve collected these past few weeks!

1)  When I took the pregnancy test, it was the longest 5 minutes ever and I was talking to myself thinking “if not this month, there’s another month, it’s okay, just relax…”  Imagine my disbelief and happy surprise when I saw the second, albeit faint, line!  I didn’t want to get my hopes up, so I took another one a couple days later with a more sure second line… and then 5 more throughout the week. ;)  I told a couple of friends right away since both are mothers and one’s a nurse, and they’ve been an amazing source of support for every worry, from freaking out that I ate turkey on my panini to did I just harm my baby by using ear wax remover drops.

2) I was kind of freaking out telling work since I started recently, but am relieved to get a tremendous amount of support and happiness for me.  It was also so much fun telling my parents, as I gave them a frame with an ultrasound and a “Grandbaby” poem.  It took them awhile to figure it out (and I think my dad was searching for his reading glasses lol), but I will cherish their reactions for the rest of my life. :)

3)  I’ve had no problem playing the baby card any chance I get – I’ve often said “I think Taddy could go for some frozen yogurt” [nicknamed Taddy that week since a website described it as the size/shape of a tadpole] or “Do you mind doing the dishes?  Kinda tired tonight, ya know, growing a human inside me and all.”  B attempted to in the worst way possible when he tried to play the baby card by saying “baby wants sex.” O_o

4) This is the primary reason why my fitness has been pretty basic – equal parts of me still being superstitious/old-fashioned and feeling guilty about “jostling” the kid around whilst running despite all these studies that say it’s okay, and me feeling nauseated anyway after 3 miles.  Around Week 10, I started getting back into 4-5 miles, though only every other day and at 1-2 minutes slower per mile than usual.

5) I’ve been eating salty foods like no other – my favorite are cheddar rice cakes, California burrito (carne asada, guacamole, potatoes, salsa, and cheese in a burrito), tempura bowls, and any panini I can get my grubby hands on.

6) I also tried the complimentary pickle (the second or third in my whole life) that came with a panini to see if I’d start craving those like some pregnant women do.  NOPE, still disgusting!

7) Upon finding out I was pregnant, my coworker stated, “Ooooh, so that’s why you have that whole stash of snacks in the drawer!”  That awkward moment when I reply with, “Oh, no, I always keep that stash around…”

8) I’ve had mild nausea, but am susceptible to crazy heart burn.  A big culprit was vinegar, which is unfortunate because I do love me some daily salad with balsamic vinaigrette.  Now I’m mostly eating steamed veggies and that seems to keep the heart burn at bay.

9) We took a blood test since I’m of ‘advanced maternal age’, and we were beyond grateful to get genetic results back as healthy.  We also found out the sex!  Any guesses? :)

10) This is how I announced it on FB… because we’re geeks:

padawan

11) Not going to lie, when the doc showed me the two chromosomes (XX or XY) and asked if I knew what it was, it took me awhile as I went back into my AP Bio class memory to remember. lol

12) Seeing the baby’s heart beat on the ultrasound for the first time with B will easily be a permanent fixture on the Top 3 moments of my life.

Anyway, that’s my news lately, and the biggest reason why I’m more devoted than ever to increasing my savings rate as much as possible these days.  Infant day care, as well as baby stuff in general, is pretty expensive, and finding our ‘forever’ house is still a project for us, so we’re doing all we can to set ourselves up for a secure (as possible) future.  Now your turn – I’d love to hear anything new going on for you, or if you have pregnancy or parenting tips, I’d love to hear it! :)

 

You Know What’s Awesome Part 3

Too soon for another round?  Probably… but let’s go for it, anyway!

You know what’s awesome…

- When you post a You know what’s awesome part 2 post and instead of pressing Preview since you want to schedule it for later that week, you press Publish.

- When you try to finish the Hunger Game trilogy by the end of the week so you can talk about it with the coworker you usually talk books/movies with before you leave that job, but then wonder “Hrm, I wonder what Finnick looks like in the movies.” So you google it and read about not only that actor, but about the rest of the cast.  Two or three hours later, you realize you’re clearly not finishing the trilogy in time, as well as feel like a weird creeper. (Umm, please tell me this is not just me…)

- When you obsess about a song that you hear on the radio, but by the time you get your Sound Hound app the song ends… for the third time.  (Though amazingly, you just google ‘whistling song 2014′ and you find it right away!)

- When you say a word to a client because it makes you sound all smart… but then look up the word when the client leaves to make sure you said it in the correct context.

- When you get a call from someone you haven’t heard from in a super long time and get excited, pick up the phone and say “oh my gosh, how are you, it’s been so long!!!”… only to discover it was a butt dial.

- When you boil eggs for that week’s breakfast and, a few minutes later when the timer goes off, you go into the kitchen to turn off the stove… only to realize you hadn’t turned it on in the first place.

*Disclaimer, this one is kinda gross*

- When you’re on a trip and your sweetie is feeling really sick that he has to take a walk break and linger by the trash can.  So he finally throws up in the trash can, and as this whole kerfuffle occurs, the two women waiting to cross the street become startled and jump back a little with big, surprised eyes.

- When after he finishes throwing up, you walk together and about five blocks in, you meant to console him but instead you blurt out, “Dude, you scared two ladies!”, and his only concern was “Were they hot?” O_o

Care to share anything awesome with you lately? :)  Happy Friday!

 

 

Brief Update

Hi everyone!  Sorry for being MIA – I had every intention of writing this weekend, but my wedding thank you cards came in and I was busily writing in those the whole time.  I don’t know if I ever mentioned it, but we took a big group shot of everyone, and I made that into the cover of our cards.  I also inserted pictures both sets of families inside the card so we can honor them and give our thanks, as well as a black and white shot of us and the goofy shot of the group.  I loved how it turned out, and I’m pleased to say that I powered through all the cards and have fully reconciled the wedding to do list!

On the personal finance front, things are going well.  Though I don’t really want to divulge our combined finances since B tends to be a pretty private person, I can say that for “my” portion if we were to divvy it up, I’ve put some more structure into the budget and sticking to it.  I get paid biweekly, and I’ve budgeted rotating one paycheck for all of the month’s expenses, such as living expenses, car/gas, food, entertainment/gifts, etc., while the next paycheck goes directly to savings and investments.  Shannon has mentioned it many times about the importance of goals, and now I’m a big believer in it despite it taking awhile to gel with me.  Nothing puts a fire under you than saving for a grand goal in the long term, and it’s been pretty motivating to have this structure in place.

If I include my pre-taxed accounts, I’m able to exceed my original savings rate of 40-45%, so that’s also been motivating!  I’m not a savings rockstar yet like Mr. DbF who saves like over 60-70%, but it’s at least motivating to see my own progress within these past couple of years.

In other life news, there really isn’t much other than the crazy fires that happened all last week in SD (and some this week).  We weren’t affected by it, but we do have some friends that had to be evacuated.  It’s been pretty scary and surreal, and gave me so much more respect for firefighters than I already have.

In pop culture news, I watched “American Hustle,” and though I thought Amy Adams was amazing in it and deserved an Oscar, I don’t really understand the hype overall?  Our next movie will probably be “X-Men” so perhaps my opinion should be taken with a grain of salt. ;)  I also read “The Light Between the Oceans” and loved it, as well as want to visit Australia now with all of the author’s gorgeous descriptions of it.

Alright, y’all, I hope everyone has been doing well and I’m looking forward to catching up with you!

 

May Updates

Happy May Days, everyone!  I thought I would give a little update, mostly because I don’t really have anything else to write about.  Let’s proceed, shall we?

Work – I’ve been at my new digs for a few weeks now and I can honestly say I love it.  I kind of feel in my last position that I was doing more training and less learning over the past couple of years, so now this opportunity has created more learning and growing for the next couple of years.  I think careers tend to have those cycles, so I’m pretty excited to expand my knowledge base and networks further.  My coworkers are so genuinely sweet and positive, and they even planned a group lunch outing so I can get to know some people I wouldn’t normally interact with which was awesome.  I still have some anxiety about meeting some of my clients, but I think that’s with any new beginnings.  This work culture, despite being a bit more corporate than my previous place, feels more in line with my working style.  I’m pretty grateful to be here.  I won’t see a full cycle of the increase in a few more weeks, but it will bump up my savings rate as well, which is a great plus.

Marriage – B and I have been married for over two months and it’s flown by!  Married life isn’t all that different from living together life, including each other’s pet peeves – he still doesn’t do dishes unless asked, my hair still gets all over the place… :)  The only difference now is that I’ll do something incredibly dorky and I’ll say “haha, you married into this – sucka!” and he’ll do the same and say “I can do this anytime I want now you’re my wife!”  Perhaps we’re still in the honeymoon period, but I’ll take it for what it’s worth.

Fitness – Ever since we’ve come back from the honeymoon, I’ve kept my fitness at a pretty basic level.  This is part because I have to get to work earlier so it shortens my workout time – I could get ready at the gym again like I used to before going to work, but I’ve kind of liked going back home and being able to hang with B and kiss each other good-bye before we both head off to work (yep, must be still honeymoon period).  Another part is admittedly laziness, though I’m sure with the summer months soon approaching I’ll be singing a different tune.  I’ve already started feeling it now, since we have to wear khakis or slacks to work that are a looser fit – now when I wear jeans or shorts on the weekends, I have to do a few lunges and squats in order for them to stretch a smidge, so I should really take that as a cue. ;)

Finances – Finances are going well, though I did splurge a little to buy more work clothes for my new position since before I could just wear t-shirts and jeans.  I’ve scored some great finds on Ebay and taken advantage of big sales at some of my favorite stores, so I’ve had my fill for awhile.  I’ve been able to save a bit more, though it hasn’t been the same amount as I used to make my monthly debt repayments.  I think I need to switch my mindset on this and think of it as debt to myself for our forever house and life goals since somehow the concept of ‘debt’ drives me more (perhaps because it was recently experienced?).  I do at least save, though, and after a certain amount, I’ll just invest in another type of index fund.  I admit to haven’t really looked into investing as much as I would like because I get pretty beat after work, but hopefully this will change once I become acclimated to work.

Other than that, life is pretty good!  B and I are also working on a cool project that I’ll hopefully be able to share sooner than later.  I’m glad to hear everyone is trucking along in the PF world, and I hope you have a wonderful May!  Anyone have plans for Memorial Day (for the U.S. folks at least)?  It will be here in mere weeks! :)

Wine Tasting With My Girls

Heidi-ho, folks!  I feel out of the PF loop since last week was my first week at the new job, and by the end of the day I just wanted to go home and sob (not really, it’s great).  To make up for it, I had a great weekend full of seeing my roly-poly godson on Friday night, and then going wine tasting with Tonya and Mackenzie!  I met Tonya before during our first half so I knew we’d get along, but I’m happy to report that Mackenzie is every bit as genuine, awesome, and hilarious in real life as she is on her blog!  It was so much fun going to different wineries with them, stuffing our faces with cheese and crackers in the car since it was so windy, and gabbing like we’ve been long-time friends.  There were so many quotable moments, but this was my favorite as we were driving to the next winery (I completely ad-libbed):

Tonya: “Okay, turn right here.”

Mackenzie (about a couple minutes later): “Um, this road is starting to look like one in a horror movie…”

Tonya: “No, the main road is at the end on this map, see?  We’re fine.”

Mackenzie: “I think that’s what the first person who gets killed always says.”

I’m bummed I didn’t meet Mackenzie sooner for more hang time, but I suppose if ever it’s a great reason to visit Portland (yes, girl, I pretty much invited myself over).  And lest you worry since these are PF’ers, Tonya did a fabulous job scoring some 2 for 1 deals (as well as printed out a great map of all the wineries), and we stayed in reasonably priced lodging so that no one was driving home drunk.   I was surprised that the lodging was actually nicer than I thought, considering it received a 2-star rating (because, you know, nothing but the best for us! ;) ).  I guess it just goes to show that with some reviews, you just gotta take it with a grain of salt.

Other than that, there isn’t much to report, so I’ll keep it short and sweet.  I hope everyone has been doing well and I look forward to catching up with you soon!

Do you like wine?  Or you more of a red or white wine?  Do you like leather in yours like Tonya?  Do you pair it with beef bourguignon like Mackenzie?