Hi everyone! First of all, holy
crap crayon! I’ve missed so many amazing life events, from engagements to pregnancies to anniversaries to milestone birthdays! Hugest congrats to these very lovely ladies, I am so happy and excited for all of you!! :)
I just wanted to send out a little update that I’m alive and well, and very much rotund these days. It doesn’t stop me from ‘racing’ B to our doorstep or when we’re about to climb the gym stairs to the second floor (competitive much? though at least he ‘lets’ me win sometimes (though I think it’s because he is amused by my waddle)), but things are definitely getting a bit harder physically. I don’t know what’s my favorite, but I’d have to say it’s a tie between having to do dishes with outstretched arms, mouth breathing more often than not, having perpetual crumbs on top of my belly after every meal and snack, and not being able to close windows when there’s a counter in front of it. ;) Despite all of this, I absolutely cannot wait to meet the little tyke, and am so excited that I can soon begin the single digit weekly countdown until delivery day!
For the most part, we’ve been ‘nesting’, both physically, mentally/emotionally, and financially. Physically, we’ve resolved that we’re going to keep the crib (that my parents generously bought for us and that
we B assembled last night) in the guest room since we will hopefully find our ‘forever’ home in the next year or so. We’re starting to get baby stuff here and there and, combined with some awesome hand-me-downs, things are starting to get more real! Flash will be getting bombarded with so much love on all fronts, from parents to our siblings to friends to my coworkers to obviously us – he’s going to be one loved fellow! :)
Mentally/emotionally, we’re also starting to take baby classes, like baby CPR, baby basics, and what to expect during delivery. Not going to lie, when we did the tour of the hospital and stepped into the labor/delivery room, I had a “oh crap, this baby’s gotta come outta me someday!” moment and freaked the heck out. I think the class on what to expect will be helpful, but I’ve definitely hounded/interviewed all of my friends and coworkers and asked about their experiences just so I can get an idea of the range of possibilities out there. Emotionally, I feel the least prepared, what with my concerns on when to come back from maternity leave since I just started my new job, as well as feelings of being a competent mom in general. I just hope I do this kid right and not let him down!
Financially, B and I have, for now, figured out which day care we’re going with, which is a great peace of mind. We decided on a ‘corporate’ one versus home, admittedly from my own biases (less chance of any TV being there, there’s often a security gate/code, there’s a 4-1 ratio with infants only as opposed to 6-1 of all ages at home, etc.), but the ones near my work are way more costly (average $410/week) versus his work (about $260-$350/week). Since the daycares and reviews were pretty comparable, we’ve ultimately decided to go with the latter. This is a bit challenging for me since I’m used to taking care of things (and okay, like having things my way) and have always envisioned of me dropping off/picking up the little tyke, but as Elsa in “Frozen” sings, I just have to “let it go… let it go…” (ha!, my mantra for a lot of things lately) because I know I’ll have to be more reliant on B (plus, he’s my partner and I know will make such a great dad, so I know it’s my mentality that I have to fix).
We’re also getting our finance-related documents in order, from budgets, wills and trusts, and life insurance (also supplemental disability, though I’d obvi have to wait until after I give birth). I’ve admittedly only figured out now the difference between life insurance policies (i.e., terms versus variable, at least), but am curious – if you have it, what did you end up going with (or is this too personal to ask? My manners have all but gone out the window lately so I’ll still ask :))? Both seem to have pro’s and con’s to them, though variable seems a bit more appealing since it feels like at least there’s this little ‘pot of money’ that I’m putting money into versus term that just goes away if not used (at least, we hope that it won’t be used and that we both live a very long life!). However, I do realize that if term is more reasonably priced, and that we could just save and have said ‘pot of money’, anyway, so there’s that. His finance planner is creating the different types of scenarios for us, so I suppose we can make a decision then based on some actual figures. If you have any advice on it, though, I would love to hear it!
Anyway, that’s been going on in my corner of the earth! I hope you are doing extremely well and keeping healthy, and that even more amazing life experiences and events happen to all of you! :)