Back on April Fool’s, when B playfully bum-rushed me (he always seems to do this when I yell out “Come at me, bro!” *shrug*), I thought it would be hilarious to jokingly say, “Stop, you’ll hurt the baby!” I know this is bad karma humor, but I expected a look of horror and instead I got a look of something quite the opposite, so now it’s a running joke in the house for him to ask “How’s the baby??” and rub my belly. Over time, baby talk led to more serious talks, and next thing I knew, we were checking out rings.
It was exciting to go to a jeweler to 1) discover what my ring size was and 2) get to see what I had in mind on my finger. We figured I’d play a part in picking it out (simple, solitaire, thin band, round shaped (since it’s like the hug in xo!)), since he’s not much for romantic surprises and I’m a “control freak.” Pretty sure that’s the clinical term, I have to check Web MD.
Weeks go by, and while we were hanging out one night he asks, “Do you want this type of metal or that for the ring?” I don’t really have a mouth filter, so instead of answering, I blurted out, “Oh, you haven’t bought it yet?” We both know my lack of patience, so he didn’t take it offensively and just laughed. This is why I communicate better in writing, I think – I have a chance to edit. But back to the story.
So what do I do while he’s taking five-ever to research rings? I start scoping out venues and dates. In my defense – we know we’re going to have it in SD, we both wanted beginning of 2014, and SD is a pretty popular area to get married both for locals and destination weddings. We needed to get crackin’, and he agreed to give me reign since 1) see control freak reference above, 2) it’s not like I really had to arm wrestle for these duties, 3) he knows I want something simple and reasonable, and 4) he gets veto power.
We reached consensus with a date fairly quickly, due to my penchant for even numbers, his football-related fondness of the day in mind, and the proximity of my birthday so less dates for him to deal with. In a week, I also figured out all the reasonably priced (and not so reasonably priced… seriously, how do people sleep at night with these outrageous prices?! Well, probably on 1000 count sheets with those rates, but wowie zowie, things are expensive) venues around the area near our church, and even created a cost-per-person spreadsheet. This weekend, we scouted the areas, and found a place that we mutually agreed upon. It’s reasonably priced given the things we want in the package are allowable (we don’t meet with them to confirm until Friday), it’s on the water, and it has awesome views which both locals and out of towners will enjoy.
The drawback? Reasonably priced, projected with our number of guests, is relative since it’s still the amount we had in mind for the total wedding budget (a number we threw out without any basis), so it makes for a mild heart attack. After pricing out options, though, this is still the lowest cost-per-person with most places being double, it’s the most convenient since set-up, catering, and take-down will be taken care of, and I do admit I’m emotionally attached to the venue. It’s nothing extravagant, but if we aren’t allowed some things once we meet with them on Friday, then I’m not going to commit to it.
This will play a part in my debt repayment, though my aim is to still be debt free, or as close to debt free, in 2013, and definitely no where near the start of where I was in 2013. Though the reception might not be the most frugal, having a gathering of our absolute favorite family and friends is important, and considered money well spent. We are thinking of every possible way to cut corners, though, which I’ll divulge in later posts. I don’t know if it’ll be interesting to state monetary details, but I’m okay with it since it’s not like I haven’t already confessed a variety of things.
So yeah, that’s been the activity lately – I feel a little cray-cray planning all this stuff before getting engaged… actually, that’s not true – I really just feel cray-cray stating that I’ve already been planning before getting engaged. It’s actually been fun stuff getting my geek on trying to find the best value for things, and it was fun scouting out areas together this weekend. Our communication so far has been awesome and I hope it continues on (for, like, ever).