A few weeks ago, B and I decided that for our registry, we’re primarily using Honeyfund since we’re already
living in sin cohabitating and don’t need actual stuff for the house. We threw honeymoon ideas out there, and we both agreed that South America is where we would most likely go. Since it’s a fairly long flight plan, we thought we’d explore 2 or so weeks, so it would cost a few grand to do so. Lately, though, he’s been mentioning that we should put any gifts towards our “forever” house instead. I was caught a little off-guard, and responded that it would only be a small percentage towards the house, to which he stated something to the effect of, “Well like you always say, something is better than nothing!”
My only rebuttal was, “So that saying is only effective when it works towards my favor.” 😉
So I’d like to ask the reader – what would you choose? A honeymoon or house?
First off, we don’t plan on incurring debt with our wedding, but in the event we do, we would for sure pay that off first. But here’s some reasons for each choice:
1) We plan on starting a family fairly quickly, so I’d like to go on a nice adventure with just the two of us while we’re able-bodied before doing so (i.e., lots and lots of hiking! Or at least sightseeing by foot).
2) I would try to find the most economical way of going to our destinations, and if we had to supplement, we’d make sure to save up for it since we’ll probably go a bit later after the wedding. Plus, it’s South America, we would stay in modest lodging, we eat on the cheap, not big drinkers, and I don’t really buy souvenirs (though we do buy one artsy piece from international destinations), so we’d get our money’s worth.
3) We could easily squeeze in a kid in our current “starter” place if we’re blessed with one, though we’d most likely need a bigger place after that if we hopefully have more.
4) I value experiences and travel over things, though realize my partner might value long-term things more than experiences.
1) We’d be able to get to our goal for our forever house faster.
2) A house is a long-term investment versus a fleeting two weeks.
3) We could still go on a honeymoon, but perhaps a domestic one. (digression: we have kind of an aeronautical theme, and when I suggested having passports as our invites, B responded with “but you don’t need a passport for domestic flights.” Darn his pragmatism for dashing my creativity! ;))
4) I suppose it’s the more fiscally responsible thing to do, especially with how expensive it is to raise children these days.
So readers, what do you think or what would you do? I’d really like to know (unless you’re on Team Forever House, then you can sit this one out. Kidding, of course – I’m curious at others’ reasoning with their choices!).